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Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Pop-culture has made us obsessed with perfection.  The perfect body, the perfect glowing skin, the perfect shiny, bouncy hair flowing in the wind as you twirl around in a field of wildflowers...  I don't know about you, but with two small kids, I can't remember the last time I was wandering around anywhere BY MYSELF, never mind twirling about!
 
Images of photoshopped and re-touched "perfection" are everywhere and lead healthy, beautiful women to feel "less than".  That internalized pressure, stress and shame leads to irrational thoughts about our bodies.  These issues with body image affect many facets of our lives.  The bedroom is no different.
 
Not feeling sexy???  Well do something about it!  NOW! You don't need a makeover and you don't need to shed those last few extra pounds in order to feel desirable and have great sex.  You do, however have to change your thinking and a take a few steps in the right direction.
 
Remember getting ready for that big date?  The anticipation... how energized and excited you were as you put on that lipstick?  Go back to that place. Make some time for a little grooming and primping.  Not for your partner, but FOR YOU!  The action of getting ready as you once did prepares you emotionally for more than the average night in front of the TV.  You'll feel better about yourself because you are caring for yourself (a foreign concept for most moms, I know).  Shave those legs, put on that lotion that you save for "special occasions".  A little make-up and some quality time with a blowdryer can work wonders on a haggard mommy's self-esteem.
 
And finally, I'm going to tell you a little secret... if your partner initiates sex, it means THEY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU!  I am assuming that they are looking at you when they initiate sex and most likely they have seen you naked recently.  Quiet those voices IN YOUR HEAD which tell you that you're not sexy enough... that negative self-talk which makes you feel less confident.  Your partner is telling you in no uncertain terms that you are sexually attractive and they want you... BELIEVE THEM, LET GO... AND HAVE SOME FUN!


 
Dr. Dae may be reached via e-mail at DrDae@aol.com or for daily tips and musings, follow her on Facebook.

 

Comments

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Hits pretty close to home...thanks for the vote of confidence and tips.

 

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